Originally Posted by pele10brazil
Anyway , from what I understand , you're telling me love(other than family love) , doesn't exist?
Yes. Romantic "love" is nothing more than a short-to-medium term convergence of mutual interests between a man and a woman.
Familial "love" is purely a question of evolution, survival and biology. Do you think the mother warthog standing up to a pride of lions in protection of her offspring does so out of love?
The major difference between the two is that the second one is close to unconditional (the first one most certainly is not).
Parent-to-child "love" = the need to protect the genes.
Child-to-parent "love" = complete dependence (in adulthood this morphs into shame and guilt).
As for your girl issues the most important thing to remember is not to lie to them. NEVER lie to a woman. It's demeaning and degrading FOR YOU! And it's also a huge strategic mistake because should you ever be caught in a lie she will use that against you for as long as you're together. And if you're a weak character you may even start feeling things like guilt and remorse because of it which will be counterproductive to your pursuit of happiness i.e. wealth, sex, success.
In your current situation I'd say do what makes you happy. If the current girlfriend is doing OK by you then stay with her until the other one you really want is ready. If the current girlfriend is creating excuses for you then all the better - she's actually taking care of the toughest job there is when you're in a relationship where the other party is keener than you (and you know the relationship has a use-by date). I'm assuming she's also a young girl and one day she'll be thankful to you for the experience (even though at the time she won't know it).
By the way, I'm not saying you should be mean to these girls (or any girls), be a gentleman at all times. Of course, they don't have to know what you're thinking and, generally speaking, most women will be more than happy going along with their own fantasies and delusions. When she starts defining the relationship, explaining the supposed intricacies of your "connection", just play along.
Anyway , what do you supose this girls feels for me?
It's impossible to know what crazy shit she's feeling. It could be anywhere from "My God, he's going to be the father of my children" to "My God, our sex is going to be so good we're going to become ONE"...