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post #141 of 1650 (permalink) Old October 26th, 2006, 17:52
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This thread is pretty good as other people round the age of 16-17 encounter the same problem and the advice given here by other posters can be valuable, so please don't start a fight and ruin this thread :rollani:

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post #142 of 1650 (permalink) Old October 26th, 2006, 19:27 Thread Starter
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But its true, not taking yourself too serious can be a
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Totally agree - it can be hard of course.
I wasn't even in good form that day socially, but the new girl still went nuts! I think she thought my shyness was cute, or something... :embarass:
I should come across very well when I'm in good form - and I will be, I'm not prepared to pass off on an opportunity like this...
I will be much looser next time, and much more sociable.
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post #143 of 1650 (permalink) Old October 26th, 2006, 22:17 Thread Starter
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This is a strange time - I'm still relatively new to this college - this is my second year there, and I'm improving on life in general at a faster rate than I ever have done - it leaves me startled and strained, but it is better than not trying - and college is certainly better for me than the dreaded alternative... no socialising opportunities at all without college for me. Work can be a chore, and I won't lie - it can be very hard for me, but the opportunities of socialising keeps me strong.
All part of the great mysteries of life - and I have to brace myself for the worst if I'm to progress with the good, I suppose... much easier said than done, but the truth from my perspective.
I don't want to go into great detail because I'm sure others on this forum have harder things to deal with whatever it may be, but a 3 A level course is hard to get through for someone who only managed 2 school GCSE's (me). Then I did a lesser music course in college and added another 4, obviously making it 6 GCSE's.
Three advantages here for me, others may have a different perspective -the socialising atmosphere is more pleasant here than in school, college is a lot less patronising for me than in school, and I'm wiser. The very prospect of a potential relationship is an offer on the table too good to refuse.
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post #144 of 1650 (permalink) Old October 27th, 2006, 00:26
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My last post was also facetious. 206 bones in your body, as well as the countless you've undoubtedly had enter your escape hatch, and not a funny one among them.


What was bogus? You had Chelsea and Barcelona on your teams list just a couple of weeks ago, you were a Juve fan prior to Roma's Scudetto win - those are facts. My tiny personality? Because you completely misread and failed to see the humour in, if I may modestly say, a rather humorous post? Yeeeeah.


I haven't been angry about something I've read here in over two years, I've scarcely made a serious post in that time frame, in truth. And if I were to get mad, it would take someone with at least a small bit of wit to get under my skin. No, the only emotion you could possibly have me evince is fear, and that could only occur if you had me handcuffed to a titanium bed, face down.

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post #145 of 1650 (permalink) Old October 27th, 2006, 05:48
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The very prospect of a potential relationship is an offer on the table too good to refuse.
A word of advice: Never seek out a relationship just for the sake of being in one. True relationships are built on mutual trust and attraction, not a desire for acceptance or for an escape from loneliness.

Lot's of people want to find someone else to 'complete' them, but that's a bullshit attitude, because it leads to false expectations and causes people to settle for relationships that aren't worth it. Saying that they need someone else to complete them implies that they are incomplete when they are alone; how they can expect others to love and respect them if they cannot love and respect themselves?

I'm not trying to be philosophical, I'm just trying to warn you. Sometimes you seem a bit depressed and lacking in self-esteem, but don't let that pressure you into anything or cloud your judgment. Whether or not you are in a relationship has nothing to do with your worth as a person -- hell, even convicted serial killers have their admirers and women wanting to be in a relationship.

Too often have I heard, "I know he/she isn't right for me, but I'm too afraid of being alone again." or "Yeah, it's not working out well, but maybe he/she is the best I can do."
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A word of advice: Never seek out a relationship just for the sake of being in one. True relationships are built on mutual trust and attraction, not a desire for acceptance or for an escape from loneliness.

Lot's of people want to find someone else to 'complete' them, but that's a bullshit attitude, because it leads to false expectations and causes people to settle for relationships that aren't worth it. Saying that they need someone else to complete them implies that they are incomplete when they are alone; how they can expect others to love and respect them if they cannot love and respect themselves?

I'm not trying to be philosophical, I'm just trying to warn you. Sometimes you seem a bit depressed and lacking in self-esteem, but don't let that pressure you into anything or cloud your judgment. Whether or not you are in a relationship has nothing to do with your worth as a person -- hell, even convicted serial killers have their admirers and women wanting to be in a relationship.

Too often have I heard, "I know he/she isn't right for me, but I'm too afraid of being alone again." or "Yeah, it's not working out well, but maybe he/she is the best I can do."
i say, you are a philosopher tim.

I strictly have nothing to say but I want that comes out.
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I get you Tim. A combination of three things could be the cause of all this trouble - of course, the typical teenage thing - that can get to anyone. Also, like I said - this course is a real S.O.B. for acedemic ability, which strains and stretches me. And finally, possibly the most effective one - I have Aspergers Syndrome - I'm a high functioning one, but it's there, and socialising is the biggest effected aspect for all people with this. I'm aware of much, which also may make it difficult - paranoia comes in.
I'm sure others have issues to deal with, so I'm only clarifying - not looking for attention or anything.
My main point is that this combination may be making me confused, it might not be that I don't love myself, if you get me. Now about the girl and what she has to offer - she seems like a rare catch, and is such a nice person that I can't see anything else but mutual trust developing, but yes, I do have to be careful like you said.
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True, those are all obstacles in a sense, but you've also got a huge advantage in being aware of them, because then you're better prepared to deal with those obstacles and to work around them. Therefore, even with Asperger's, it sounds like you're ahead of a lot of other people your age.

The mid to late teens are a confusing time for many people, and some of them think that a relationship is a quick fix for everything. I was hoping you wouldn't make the same mistake, but it seems you've got the awareness to know better anyway.
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post #152 of 1650 (permalink) Old October 27th, 2006, 22:07
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A word of advice: Never seek out a relationship just for the sake of being in one. True relationships are built on mutual trust and attraction, not a desire for acceptance or for an escape from loneliness.

Lot's of people want to find someone else to 'complete' them, but that's a bullshit attitude, because it leads to false expectations and causes people to settle for relationships that aren't worth it. Saying that they need someone else to complete them implies that they are incomplete when they are alone; how they can expect others to love and respect them if they cannot love and respect themselves?

I'm not trying to be philosophical, I'm just trying to warn you. Sometimes you seem a bit depressed and lacking in self-esteem, but don't let that pressure you into anything or cloud your judgment. Whether or not you are in a relationship has nothing to do with your worth as a person -- hell, even convicted serial killers have their admirers and women wanting to be in a relationship.

Too often have I heard, "I know he/she isn't right for me, but I'm too afraid of being alone again." or "Yeah, it's not working out well, but maybe he/she is the best I can do."


This is the kind of advice this bright young fella needs And I tottally agree.

Though its nothing bad with cliché advice like play and sing them a song (clichés are clichés because they generally work).

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This is the kind of advice this bright young fella needs And I tottally agree.

Though its nothing bad with cliché advice like play and sing them a song (clichés are clichés because they generally work).
If I'm in very good form at some point, then I may just attempt to write her a song. :smileani: Also, she likes poetry and writes poetry, so she told me...
This could create a very romantic air - I could write her a song and she could write me a poem, that would be great!
I am capable of writing fairly good songs considering my complete lack of experience - three of them are quite good, and a romantic song will be interesting if I become attracted to her... I can't see how I won't be attracted to her - I see this as a winning combination. I'm all yours, baby! :sweeteye:
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Dear Agony Timmy,

My neighbor Earl keeps lettin his cattle graze on my front lawn. Not only is it messin up my grass, but all the shit is stinkin up the place and ruinin my boots. What should I do?

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Sounds like Earl needs killin. I'd recommend you take that Remington over & under you picked up at Jethro's last farm auction and shoot his sorry ass.

Alternatively, you could just let the cattle shit fertilize your lawn to have the grass grow back faster, but then you'd risk people laughin at you and callin you yellow for not standin up to Earl.

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I go back in on Monday - this week long holiday is drawing to an end... mixed emotions - anxiety relief anticipation irritation :frustrat: all of that...
I don't want to have to wait till Friday to meet up with her again, but that may be the case... oh well, it won't matter, it would just be a little irritating :frustrat: if that is the case.
I hope there is a buzz there when I meet her... I would imagine this won't be a problem - she's a very fun person, and I really appreciate the fact that she understands my occasional (and I mean occasional - not rare, but now simply occasional because I'm getting better at this stuff) shyness, and if she appreciated me when I was obviously not feeling too good, it should be great when I'm in good form; this should all be enough to give me a buzz, and this should all go down well I hope.
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Not to remind you, but I'm not alone in noticing that you have only talked about this new girl(that you yet dont know the name ofp) for a long while now instead of your precious Harlet

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Not to remind you, but I'm not alone in noticing that you have only talked about this new girl(that you yet dont know the name ofp) for a long while now instead of your precious Harlet
Yeah well... I can't have Harley. She's taken. :rollani: This new girl has given me other things to think about, and she's very sweet. I hope I can fancy her.
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I go back to college tommorow, and so the story begins to unfold...
I'll lose myself in the moment.
I hate Mondays. Oh well, what can I do...
I'm feeling ok at the moment, so I have enough in me to rise up to the challenge...
This should be interesting, and things shouldn't go down badly.
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Two things happened today - one good one not so good: -
Good thing - I finally know her name her name is Caitlin (I think that's how you spell it).
Not so good thing - not anyone's fault, just one of them situations: basically, we decided to meet up again outside the music area, and I assumed she meant at the break interval between the first and second lessons, but she must have meant at lunch time, which is when I finished that day.
So at lunch time she wasn't there due to the fact that it was early in the lunch break, and she didn't know that I finished at that point, so I couldn't hang around - I had to leave, but I didn't get a chance to tell her that I was leaving, so I'm just a bit worried that she may take it to heart and feel hurt by this... I hope not, and I will get a chance to explain later on, but I'm still concerned...
Any girls out there who are willing to give their input? How would you feel in a situation like this?

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She'll probably just think, "Oh, typical man!"
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